SEVEN THINGS MY BLACK BOY WILL NOT BE EXPECTED TO BE/DO

 

RAMPANT  RACIAL SEGREGATION IN THE  USA

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 Even In the days after the Michael Brown shooting in the USA, I wrote an essay titled “I Hope My Son Stays White,” detailing my fears about what might happen to my biracial three-year-old son if he grows up to have dark skin.

The upshot: America, to its shame, is still a place where black males are feared, and I don’t want that fear to turn itself on my son in a way that leads to his arrest or death.

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I published the piece on Ebony.com, and the reactions from black readers ranged from “sad but true” to allegations that I myself was engaging in the very racism and colourism that I was decrying.

But buried among these was a comment from a white reader who accused me of “sucking up to black folk” and then went on to list the supposed advantages of being black in America. (Apparently, according to this reader, my son will have an unearned fast track to a career as an air traffic controller. Um, okay?)

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I can’t help but think that, if the essay had been published in an outlet with a larger white readership, many more commenters would have chimed in to deny the continued existence of racism.

In my experience, white people (and straight people, and male people, and Christian people — all groups of which I’m a member) tend to dismiss the notion that we’re privileged.

It’s an uncomfortable thing to acknowledge that you’re the recipient of unfair benefits, especially when those benefits are often nearly invisible to those who receive them.

But when you’re a parent, those privileges stop being invisible. It’s the reason why male congressmen with daughters are more likely to support women’s issues. It’s the reason why Ohio Sen. Rob Portman suddenly declared his support for same-sex marriage after his son came out as gay. And it’s the reason why, everywhere I look, I see hassles that my son will have to face that I don’t. Here’s a partial list of things I can take for granted, but which will likely be problematic for my son:

1. I Can Walk Through a Store Without Being Followed
To take one high-profile instance, Macy’s and the city of New York recently settled with actor Robert Brown, who was handcuffed, humiliated, and accused of committing credit card fraud after buying an expensive watch at the store.
I never have to worry about this happening to me.

2. I Can Succeed Without It Being Attributed to My Race
When my wife, who is black, received her acceptance letter from Boston College, a peer told her she must have gotten in due to affirmative action, effectively ruining the experience of receiving the letter.
When I succeed, people assume I’ve earned it.

3. I Learned About My Ancestors’ History in School
I can tell you all about Louis XIV, Socrates, and the Magna Carta, but I always wondered when we would finally learn about African history (beyond Pharaohs and pyramids). The subject never came up.

4. I Can Lose My Temper in Traffic
Once, an acquaintance who got into a confrontation while driving told me how scared she was of the other driver, describing him as a “big black guy.” When I get heated, no one attributes it to my race.

5. I Can Loiter in Wealthy Neighborhoods
No one has ever called the cops on me to report a “suspicious person.” My wife can’t say the same.

6. I Can Complain About Racism
When I point out that black people are incarcerated at alarming rates, or largely forced to send their children to underperforming schools, or face systemic discrimination when searching for jobs and housing, no one accuses me of “playing the race card.”

7. I Can Count on Being Met on My Own Terms
If I’m being treated poorly, I don’t stop and think about whether it’s due to my race. But unless we somehow make a giant leap forward, my son will always have to wonder.

Recently, I became a father for the second time. My daughter, only three months old, will grow up to face many of the same challenges as my son, on top of the extra ones that come with being a woman: the struggle for equal pay, the catcalling, the constant threat of sexual assault.

I don’t want to give my children a complex about all of this, but I can’t wish these problems away, either. I can’t eliminate all the unfair hurdles that exist in the world. I can only do my best to raise kids who are able to jump over them.

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FORMER LIBYAN LEADER MUAMMAR GHADAFFI'S LAST SPEECH [translated by Pearl FM]

Posted here on 31st December, 2014.

GHADAFFI'S LAST SPEECH

A man who did everything he could for Africans, but still the African Union stood by and watched him die from the comfort of their offices.

(Translated by Pearl FM)

"For 40 years, or was it longer, I can’t remember, I did all I could to give people houses, hospitals, schools, and when they were hungry, I gave them food, I even made Benghazi into farmland from the desert, I stood up to attacks from that cowboy Reagan, when he killed my adopted orphaned daughter, he was trying to kill me, instead he killed that poor innocent child. 

 Then I helped my brothers and sisters from Africa with money for the African Union.  I did all I could to help People understand the concept of real democracy, where people’s committees ran our country, but that was never enough, as some told me, even people who had 10 room homes, new suits and furniture, were never satisfied, as selfish as they were they wanted more, and they told Americans and other visitors, they needed “democracy” and "freedom”, never realizing it was a cut throat system. 


 Where the biggest dog eats the rest, [b]but they were enchanted with those words, never realizing that in America, there was no free medicine, no free hospitals, no free housing, no free education and no free food, except when people had to beg or go to long lines to get soup.  

 No, no matter what I did, it was never enough for some, but for others, they knew I was the son of Gamal Abdel Nasser [the  former president of Egypt]. The  only true Arab and Muslim leader we’ve had since Salah’ a’ Deen, when he claimed the Suez Canal for his people.  As  I claimed Libya, for my people, it was his footsteps I tried to follow, to keep my people free from colonial domination—from thieves who would steal from us. 

 Now, I am under attack by the biggest force in military history, my little African son, Obama wants to kill me, to take away the freedom of our country, to take away our free housing, our free medicine, our free education, our free food, and replace it with American style thievery, called “capitalism,” but all of us in the Third World know what that means, it means corporations run the countries, run the world, and the people suffer, so, there is no alternative for me, I must make my stand, and if Allah wishes, I shall die by following his path, the path that has made our country rich with farmland, with food and health, and even allowed us to help our African and Arab brothers and sisters to work here with us, in the Libyan Jammohouriyah.

 I do not wish to die, but if it comes to that, to save this land, my people, all the thousands who are all my children, then so be it.

Let this testament be my voice to the world, that I stood up to crusader attacks of NATO, stood up to cruelty, stood up to betrayal, stood up to the West and its colonialist ambitions, and that I stood with my African brothers, my true Arab and Muslim brothers, as a beacon of light, when others were building castles, I lived in a modest house, and in a tent, I never forgot my youth in Sirte, I did not spend our national treasury foolishly, and like Salah’a’deen, our great Muslim leader, who rescued Jerusalem for Islam, I took little for myself…

In the West, some have called me “mad,” “crazy,” but they know the truth but continue to lie, they know that our land is independent and free, not in the colonial grip, that my vision, my path, is, and has been clear and for my people and that I will fight to my last breath to keep us free, may Allah almighty help us to remain faithful and free!"

TANZANIAN PRIEST ARRESTED ON CHARGES OF PROSTITUTION

From  "The CITIZEN", TANZANIA.

By Mkinga Mkinga and Agencies

Posted  Monday, December 15  2014 at  09:12

In Summary

• The priest was arrested on Friday after detectives posed as 16-year-old girls and advertised their services on a website known for trading in prostitution
  Dar es Salaam. A Catholic Church priest from Bukoba Diocese assigned to an east Mesa church in the United States is among five suspects arrested by police in an operation that targeted suspects of prostitution involving under-age girls.
  He was arrested on Friday after Mesa police detectives posed as 16-year-old girls and advertised their services on a website known for trading in prostitution.
  A statement released by the police said, men were supposed to come to a Mesa motel at a predetermined time to meet with prostitutes for sex.
  Reached for comment yesterday, Bukoba Diocese Bishop Desderius Rwoma admitted to have received reports of the arrest of Fr Solomon Bandiho. He said, the priest was in the US for doctoral studies.
  However, Bishop Rwoma desisted from commenting on the issue pending confirmation of the incident. “I can confirm to have heard about the arrest but I cannot comment further because we are yet to check and establish what actually happened,” he told The Citizen over the phone.
  According to Mesa police, when the men agreed to have sex with the supposed prostitutes, even after being told they were 16, police arrested them on suspicion of child prostitution.
  Detective Steve Berry, a Mesa police spokesman noted that the suspects include Fr Bandiho, 49, who is listed on the Holy Cross Catholic Church’s website as the east Mesa church’s parochial administrator.
  The other four suspects were identified by police as Mr Eric Mohren, 34; Mr Christopher Sherman, 48; Mr Jose Flores Nunez, 31 and Mr Santiago Robles, 26.
  “When you have people who are willing to prey upon our juveniles, those are some of the worse people in our society,” Berry said.
  He said someone who is willing to have sex with a 16-year-old might be willing to victimize even younger children.
  Rob DeFrancesco, a spokesman for the diocese, said the diocese learned about Fr Bandiho’s arrest on Friday afternoon. Bandiho’s faculties as a priest have been removed, meaning that he is barred from public ministry, he said. Other priests will be available at Holy Cross to say Mass and perform other ministerial duties.
  Source: Citizen, 15 December 2014

Scientists Warn of Rising Oceans From Polar Melt

Posted here on 19/6/2014

Scientists Warn of Rising Oceans From Polar Melt

From the New York Times website.

By JUSTIN GILLIS and KENNETH CHANG  -

 MAY 12, 2014

A large section of the mighty West Antarctica ice sheet has begun falling apart and its continued melting now appears to be unstoppable, two groups of scientists reported on Monday May 12, 2014. If the findings hold up, they suggest that the melting could destabilize neighboring parts of the ice sheet and a rise in sea level of 10 feet or more may be unavoidable in coming centuries.

Global warming caused by the human-driven release of greenhouse gases has helped to destabilize the ice sheet, though other factors may also be involved, the scientists said.

The rise of the sea is likely to continue to be relatively slow for the rest of the 21st century, the scientists added, but in the more distant future it may accelerate markedly, potentially throwing society into crisis.

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Various measurements have captured the West Antarctic ice sheet changing very rapidly in the region where it flows into the Amundsen Sea. Credit Landsat.

Two scientific papers released on Monday by the journals Science and Geophysical Research Letters came to similar conclusions by different means. Both groups of scientists found that West Antarctic glaciers had retreated far enough to set off an inherent instability in the ice sheet, one that experts have feared for decades. NASA called a telephone news conference Monday to highlight the urgency of the findings.

The West Antarctic ice sheet sits in a bowl-shaped depression in the earth, with the base of the ice below sea level. Warm ocean water is causing the ice sitting along the rim of the bowl to thin and retreat. As the front edge of the ice pulls away from the rim and enters deeper water, it can retreat much faster than before.

In one of the new papers, a team led by Eric Rignot, a glaciologist at the University of California, Irvine, used satellite and air measurements to document an accelerating retreat over the past several decades of six glaciers draining into the Amundsen Sea region. And with updated mapping of the terrain beneath the ice sheet, the team was able to rule out the presence of any mountains or hills significant enough to slow the retreat.

“Today we present observational evidence that a large sector of the West Antarctic ice sheet has gone into irreversible retreat,” Dr. Rignot said in the NASA news conference. “It has passed the point of no return.”

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Those six glaciers alone could cause the ocean to rise four feet as they disappear, Dr. Rignot said, possibly within a couple of centuries. He added that their disappearance will most likely destabilize other sectors of the ice sheet, so the ultimate rise could be triple that.

A separate team led by Ian Joughin of the University of Washington studied one of the most important glaciers, Thwaites, using sophisticated computer modeling, coupled with recent measurements of the ice flow. That team also found that a slow-motion collapse had become inevitable. Even if the warm water now eating away at the ice were to dissipate, it would be “too little, too late to stabilize the ice sheet,” Dr. Joughin said. “There’s no stabilization mechanism.”

The two teams worked independently, preparing papers that were to be published within days of each other. After it was learned that their results were similar, the teams and their journals agreed to release the findings on the same day. 

The new finding appears to be the fulfillment of a prediction made in 1978 by an eminent glaciologist, John H. Mercer of the Ohio State University. He outlined the vulnerable nature of the West Antarctic ice sheet and warned that the rapid human-driven release of greenhouse gases posed “a threat of disaster.” He was assailed at the time, but in recent years, scientists have been watching with growing concern as events have unfolded in much the way Dr. Mercer predicted. (He died in 1987.)

A NASA animation shows glacier changes detected in the highly dynamic Amundsen Embayment of West Antarctica.

Credit NASA/Goddard Space Flight Center

Scientists said the ice sheet was not melting because of warmer air temperatures, but rather because relatively warm water that occurs naturally in the depths of the ocean was being pulled to the surface by an intensification, over the past several decades, of the powerful winds that encircle Antarctica.

And while the cause of the stronger winds is somewhat unclear, many researchers consider human-induced global warming to be a significant facto. The winds help to isolate Antarctica and keep it cold at the surface, but as global warming proceeds, that means a sharper temperature difference between the Antarctic and the rest of the globe. That temperature difference provides further energy for the winds, which in turn stir up the ocean waters.

Some scientists believe the ozone hole over Antarctica — caused not by global warming but by an entirely different environmental problem, the human-caused release of ozone-destroying gases — may also be adding energy to the winds. And natural variability may be contributing as well, though scientists do not believe it is the primary factor.

The global sea level has been rising since the 19th century, but Antarctica so far has been only a small factor. The biggest factor to date is that seawater expands as it warms.

This “airborne” tour was created from a small portion of the images collected during a flight over the Pine Island Glacier crack on Oct. 26, 2011.

Credit NASA/Goddard Space Flight Center

But the melting from both Greenland and Antarctica is expected to be far more important in the future. A United Nations scientific committee, the Intergovernmental Panel on Climate Change, has warned that the global sea level could rise as much as three feet by the end of this century if stronger efforts are not made to control greenhouse gases. The new findings suggest the situation is likely to get far worse in subsequent centuries.

The effects will depend in part on how much money future governments spend to protect shorelines from a rising sea. Research published in 2012 found that a rise of less than four feet would inundate land on which some 3.7 million Americans live today. Miami, New Orleans, New York and Boston are all highly vulnerable.

Richard B. Alley, a climate scientist at Pennsylvania State University who was not involved in the new research but has studied the polar ice sheets for decades, said he found the new papers compelling. Though he had long feared the possibility of ice-sheet collapse, when he learned of the new findings, “it shook me a little bit,” Dr. Alley said.

He added that while a large rise of the sea may now be inevitable from West Antarctica, continued release of greenhouse gases will almost certainly make the situation worse. The heat-trapping gases could destabilize other parts of Antarctica as well as the Greenland ice sheet, potentially causing enough sea-level rise that many of the world’s coastal cities would eventually have to be abandoned.

“If  we have indeed lit the fuse on West Antarctica, it’s very hard to imagine putting the fuse out,” Dr. Alley said. “But there’s a bunch more fuses, and there’s a bunch more matches, and we have a decision now:  Do we light those?"

IS THIS TRULY WOMEN'S LIBERATION????!!!???

Posted here on  25th March, 2014.

 

How Women Were Lured Out of the Home in the USA

By Areeba bint Khalid
Posted: 9 Jamad-ul-Awwal 1424, 27 June 2004

From the 1800s to the present day, family life in the West has remarkably changed. While the West calls this change part of the women freedom movement, a look at history may show otherwise.

America before the 1800s was a farming country and ninety percent of the population lived and worked on private farms. Households were mainly self-sufficient--nearly everything needed was produced in the house. The few things that could not be produced at home were bought from local craftsmen. Some other things, especially imports from Europe, were bought from stores. Males would take care of the fields and females would take care of the home. In addition, they would engage in spinning, knitting, weaving, and taking care of the farm animals.

Industrial Revolution

The Industrial Revolution, which began around the early 1800s, brought a major change to this way of life. In 1807, in the wake of the war between Great Britain and France, President Jefferson signed the Embargo Act, which stopped all trade between Europe and America. The Act meant that European goods would no longer be available in the US and Americans would have to produce them. One major European import to America was cloth, and so merchants used this opportunity to create a cloth industry in America.

In 1814, Francis Cabot Lowell, a man from Boston opened the first modern factory. Work here was to be done way faster than before. Instead of manually making things in houses, things were to be made at higher speeds in a factory and all stages of the work were to be completed under the same roof. Now what Lowell needed were workers. He found out that women, especially unmarried daughters of the farmers, were more economical to use in labor than men. They were also more willing to work as hired people in factories.

But Lowell had to make the working outside of home acceptable in a society which was not used to it. He assured parents that their daughters would be taken care of and kept under discipline. And he built a boarding community where the women workers lived and worked together.

Soon after, more and more factories emerged across America. Factory owners followed Lowell's example of hiring unmarried women. By 1850 most of the country's goods were made in factories. As production of goods moved from the country to the city, people too moved from the country to the city.

For money to be earned, people had to leave their homes. When women worked on the farm, it was always possible to combine work and family. When work for women moved outside the home, however, the only women who could follow it were those without family responsibilities or those who had no husband or no income. Likewise, the only women who could take care of their families were the ones that didn't have work.
This working out of home became a part of life for unmarried women. They would work until their marriage. But as time passed, women found family life interfering with their work life and instead of viewing working out of home as optional, they viewed family life as such. Many women started delaying marriage even more and some decided to stay single.
Married women however stayed home and dedicated their time to their children. Now that there wasn't any farm work to do, women had even more time to spend with the children. In 1900 less than about 5.6% of married women worked outside. If a married woman were to work, it would be considered that her husband was invalid or that she was poor.
World War I
The first major entry of married women to the workforce came during World War I in 1914. Men went to fight the war and the country needed workers to take over the jobs they left behind. Unmarried women were not sufficient for the labor needs, so employers started to invite married women too, to work. By 1919, 25% of the women in the workforce were married. But this was only the beginning.
Another change World War I brought was the entry of women to the army. About 13,000 women enlisted in the US Navy, mostly doing clerical work--the first women in US history to be admitted to full military rank.
Great Depression
The Great Depression came in the 1930s. The unemployment rate climbed from 3.2% in 1929 to 23.6% in 1932. Jobs became scarce for skilled people and men. Fathers went to search for jobs. Some, under despair, deserted their families. The responsibility of earning fell on mothers in many families.
Most women and children, however, found jobs more easily than men because of the segregation of work categories for men and women. Although 80% of men during the Great Depression opposed their wives entering the workforce under any circumstances, economic factors made it necessary for the women to work. Hours were long and pay was low. Twenty percent of white women were in the workforce.
World War II
World War II came in the early 1940s. Men were drafted to fight, and America needed workers and supplies. Again, the employers looked towards the women for labor. Unmarried and married women were invited to work, as had been done during World War I.
But still, public opinion was generally against the working of married women. The media and the government started a fierce propaganda campaign to change this opinion. The federal government told the women that victory could not be achieved without their entry into the workforce. Working was considered part of being a good citizen, a working wife was a patriotic person.
The government founded the Magazine Bureau in 1942. The Bureau published Magazine War Guide, a guide which told magazines which themes stories they should cover each month to aid war propaganda. For September 1943, the theme was "Women at Work". The slogan for this was "The More Women at Work the Sooner We Win." Magazines developed stories that glorified and promoted the placement of women into untraditional jobs where workers were needed. The idea was that if smaller, unexciting jobs were portrayed as attractive and noble more women would join the work force.
The media created Rosie the Riveter, a mythical character to encourage women into the workforce. Rosie was portrayed as a patriotic woman, a hero for all American women. "All the day long, Whether rain or shine, She's a part of the assembly line. She's making history, Working for victory, Rosie the Riveter… There's something true about, Red, white, and blue about, Rosie the Riveter."

The propaganda efforts worked. More than six million women joined the workforce during the war, the majority of them married women. In 1940, before the war, only 36% of women workers were married. By 1945, after the war, 50% of women workers were married. The middle class taboo against a working wife had been repealed.

Post World War II
The 1950s marked an era of prosperity in the lives of American families. Men returned from war and needed jobs. Once again, the government and media got together to steer the opinion of the public. This time, however, they encouraged women to return home, which shows that the women were brought out not for their freedom but because workers were needed.

But this effort was not as successful and was abandoned quickly. First, women from lower economic ranks had to remain in the workforce because of economic necessity. And second, there came the rise of consumer culture.

The baby boom took place during the 1950s as well. Women who returned home dedicated their lives once again to their children. But around the same time an important change had come in the American life. This was the spread of the television. By 1960, 90% of the population owned at least one set. Families would gather around the screen for entertainment. In the early days, everything including commercials was watched with great interest.

Most middle-class families could not afford the goods the television declared necessary to maintain or enhance quality of life with one paycheck alone. Many women returned to work in order to live according to "the American standard of living," whatever that meant to them.
The number of American women in the workforce from 1940 to 1950 increased by nine percent. From 1930 to 1940 there had only been a three percent increase.
Effects

As mothers returned to work, the television became the most important caretaker of a child. Children in the 1950s spent most of their non-sleeping hours in front of the television screen.

In 1940, less than 8.6% of mothers with children under eighteen worked. By 1987, 60.2% of women with children under eighteen were working.
As wives assumed larger roles in their family's financial support, they felt justified in demanding that husbands perform more childcare and housework. Across the years, divorce rates doubled reaching a level where at least 1 out of 2 marriages was expected to end in divorce. Marriage rates and birthrates declined. The number of single parent families rapidly increased. People grew unhappy with their lives, when compared to the lives of people on television.

Women working affected the society in many different ways. The first and most important of these was that children with working mothers were left alone without the care of a mother. As the number of working women increased, the number of children growing up unsupervised increased, and with this increased crime among teens.

Since most women placed their career ahead of family life, family life was greatly affected since unmarried women were generally able to make more money than married ones. For example, according to a study by a Harvard economist, women physicians who were unmarried and had no children earned thirteen percent more per year than those who were married and fifteen percent more than those with children.
Today

The majority of women still work at the lower levels of the economic pyramid. Most are employed in clerical positions, factory work, retail sales, or service jobs. Around 50% of the workforce is female. While about 78% of all cashiers and 99% of all secretaries today are female, only 31% of managers and administrators are female. Equality in the workplace has been a mirage but it has conned millions of women into leaving their homes and destroying the family structure.

It was only when economic or political factors made it necessary to get more workers that women were called to work. The Industrial Revolution, the Great Depression, and the World Wars, all the major events which increased the proportion of women workers, were times when the capitalists required more workers in order to be successful in their plans and so they used women.

The move of women from home to the public workforce has been gradual. First poor women went. Then unmarried women. Then married women without children. Then married women without young children And then, all women. The same thing can be seen to be happening in developing countries around the world, as the West spreads its propaganda of freedom for women to work. The results of this move will probably be the same too.

Asma (RA) bint Yazid Ansarî came to Prophet Muhammad [PEACE BE UPON HIM]  and said: "O,  Messenger  of Allâh! You are dearer to me than my parents. The Muslim women have deputed me as their representative to talk to you on their behalf. Verily you are the Nabî of Allâh for both men and women. We stay for most part of our time within the four walls of our houses. We fulfill our duties as wives, bearing children for them and looking after their homes. And not withstanding all this, men excel us in rewards for things which we are unable to do. They perform their daily salât and weekly Jumu'ah in the masjid, visit the sick, attend the Janâza, perform Hajj after Hajj and participate in Jihad. We look after their property, bring up their children and weave cloth for them. Do we not share their rewards with them?"

Nabî addressing the Sahâbâh (RA) sitting around him, said: "Did you ever hear a lady asking a better question?" The Sahâbâh (RA) replied: "O, Nabî of Allâh! We never thought that a woman could ever ask such a question.

Nabî addressing Asma said: "Listen attentively, and then go and tell the ladies who have sent you that when a woman seeks the pleasure of her husband and carries out her domestic functions to his satisfaction, she receives the same reward as the men get for all their services to Allâh."

UTHIBITISHO WA MAKATAZO YA MWENYEZIMUNGU JUU YA USHOGA WA KAUMU LUT

Posted here Today 12/3/2014.

 

TMA  [TANZANIA]  WAUKATAA   USHOGA

 

Rais wa Tanzania Medical  Association [TMA], Dr Primus F Saidia, ametoa statement ndeefu (published in Jamhuri - Mdosi, naomba tupeperushie), kupinga ushoga, baadhi ya hoja muhimu ni hizi hapa:

MOSI: Kuzaliana - kama jinsia zitaoaana zenyewe kwa zenyewe watoto hawatozaliwa, mwisho wake binadamu tutamalizika.

PILI: Ushoga haulingani na mfumo wa maisha ya kawaida ya Mwafrika, tukiiga hivihivi mfumo wa Kimagharibi, kuna matokeo ya kisaikolojia na kisoshiolojia ambaye hayatabiriki.

TATU: ushoga unaleta ukimwi. Ukimwi ulizaliwa Magharibi kutokea kwa mashoga.

NNE: katika mapenzi ya kawaida wanawake wanapotaka mapenzi, mwili hujitayarisha kwa kuweka lubrication before and after the event. Kwa mashoga, wanaume wanaoingiliwa huwa hawana kinga hiyo kwa sababu hawana lubrication. Hii inatoa mwanaya wa maambukizi yasiyotabirika.

TANO: magonjwa ya zinaa kama kisonono na kaswende nchi za Magharibi yalishaisha, sisi yapo. Kisonono au kaswende kupitia njia za haja kubwa kwa mwanaume madhara yake yatakuwa makubwa na hayatabiriki.

SITA: magonjwa ya ini. Kuna ugonjwa unaitwa hepatitis A, B  na C. Virusi B na C huenezwa kwa njia ya damu, na virusi vya A huenezwa kwa njia ya mdomo na haja kubwa. Hepatitis A palepale inawaingia mashoga. Uchunguzi USA 1992 unaonyesha kuwa mashoga wana maambukizo 22% ya ini kuliko kawaida, ikiwemo kusinyaa kwa ini, kansa ya ini, na ini kushindwa kazi hadi kifo.

SABA: maradhi ya tumbo. Mashoga wanaathirika na ugonjwa uitwao GAY BOWEL SYNDROME kwa sababu ya khamisha bakteria kutoka sehemu moja ya utumbo kwenda sehemu nyingine ya utumbo wasikohitajika, huleteleza typhoid, herpetic ulcers, kanza ya maeneo ya mdomo na za eneo la haja kubwa.

NANE: je ushoga ni tabia ya kurithi au ya kuiga? Tofauti ya mwanaume na mwanamke ni hormones za kijinsia. Kila mtu ana homoni za kike na za kiume kwa kiasi mbalimbali, kwa wanawake homoni za kike ni nyingi zaidi na kwa wanaume hivyo hovyo lakini kwa asilimia tofauti tofauti. Kwa hiyo uwepo tu wa homoni za kike kwa mwanaume au za kiume kwa mwanamke si ajabu, na si sababu ya kusema uishoga unarithiwa. "UKWELI NI KUWA USHOGA NI TABIA ZA KUJIFUNZA KAMA TABIA ZINGINE ZOZOTE". Inaweza kuepukika kwa muhusika kuamua kuachana na msukumo. Ikumbukwe kwamba hata wanaume na wanawake wasio mashoga hupata hamu ya kujamiaana , lakini kwa kujizuia utawakuta wanajamiaana kwa utaratibu, kwa faragha, na si kusukumwa tu na hamu ya kutaka kujamiiana. Ni bahati mbaya watoto hujifunza mambo kama haya wakati wa kubalehe na kuvunja ungo. Iwapo mtoto ataanza kujifunza tabia ya ushoga ni vigumu kumrudisha kwa njia zingine, sawa tu na yule asiyefanya ushoga kumpeleka kwenye ushoga baadaye. TUNAWEZA KUEPUKANA NA TABIA ZA USHOGA KAMA TUKIWZA KUZUIA WATOTO WETU KUJIFUNZA USHOGA HASA KATIKA VIKUNDI NA SHULE ZA BWENI.

"Kwa kuhitimisha, nasema kwamba kwa upande afya ya kijamii, nchi zetu changa zina matatizo mengi ya kushughulika nayo. Mfani ni vifo vy watoto na kina mama, TB na mapafu, malaria, ukimwi na mengineyo mengi, bila kusahau magonjwa yasiyokuwa ya kuambukizwa kama kisyukari, presha, kiharusi na mengine lukuki. Wenzetu wa Magharibi walishayatokomeza ay kuyapunguza sana, ndiyo maana wanapata muda wa kujadili na kuyaendekeza masuala ya ushoga na pengine kuwakinga mashoga wao na maradhi. Sisi bado, tuliyonayo yanatutosha, hili la mashoga tuwaachie wao.

 

HONGERA   NYINGI   SANA KWA UTHIBITISHO HUU KUTOKA KWA WATAALAMU  WA TIBA NCHINI TANZANIA KUHUSU SUALA HILI LA  KUMKUFURU  MWENYEZI MUNGU.  [Mwenye Blogu]

DR. ASADU SEMWOGERERE HAS PASSED AWAY !!!

Posted here on 11/3/2014.

On Tue, Mar 4, 2014 at 6:32 PM, Abbey Semuwemba <abbeysemuwemba@gmail.com> wrote:

UK MUSLIMS MOURN DR.ASADU SEMWOGERERE DEATH IN BIG NUMBERS

Posted on March 4, 2014 by Uganda Muslim Brothers and Sisters

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COVENTRY- Hundreds of Uganda Muslims have been camping at Dr.Asadu Ssemwogerere’s house in Coventry, UK, who was pronounced dead after a period of suffering from a blood clot to his brain. A loss for all Muslims was the way the Secretary General of Uganda Muslims in the UK, Hajji Sula Kavulu described the news about Dr.Asadu Ssemwogerere’s death, asserting that the Muslim doctor will remain an example to those fighting for rights and welfare of Muslims.
‘’The Asadu I know and would like to remember was a humble servant of Allah. He studied at Makerere during my Patronship of MUMSA. It was during this time that I noted a remarkable person in the making. He was humble, respectful of elders, and yet very honest with his opinion. Even when he disagreed with you, you felt rewarded for his disagreement. He was a medical student, but he always found time for MUMSA work at Campus. It meant regularly crossing over from Medical school to join the mainstream discussions and Dawah activity at Campus,’’ Professor Abasi Kiyimba of the Department of Literature Makerere University said in a statement issued on March 1, and obtained by the UMBS.

‘’I also remember him very vividly in MUMSA Dawa trips in the countryside, the most memorable of which was the one of 1990 when we travelled together to the districts of Mityana, Mubende and Fortportal. He was the pioneer doctor on the Dawah countryside programmes sponsored by the World Assembly of Muslim Youth (WAMY), treating both members of the Caravan and the local people. He had the calling of a natural doctor – always humble, never rushing or barking at patients, and very mindful of the impact of his decision on the patient.’’

Speaking at the funeral, the UMBS Administrator, Abbey Kibirige Semuwemba, said: ‘it’s unfortunate that I had not met Dr.Asadu before his death but he was a member of UMBS. A lot of messages have been posted since his death showing that he was a humble servant of Allah who respected elders. So, his death should be a lesson to those of us that are still alive. If you aren’t humble, find a way of making yourself humble. If you don’t respect elders, please so do so.’

The video below shows Semuwemba speaking at the funeral of Dr.Asadu Ssemwogerere who lived in the midlands:

http://youtu.be/NN2GulWfZFs

Among those in the audience was: Mr.Meddie Kakyama, Hajji Sulaiman Kavulu, Musa Mukwaya, Ibrahim Lwanyaga Kabanda, Ali Muwanda, Twaha Ddungu, Sheikh Kalantani, Mr.Saadi Kibirige Buwembo, Dr.Sadat Muhammad, Muhammad Mayanja, e.t.c,

‘‘We have been celebrating our Idi every year at Asadu’s house. He was also very active in Jamaat affairs of Muslims in the UK. His house door was always open to almost all Muslims in Coventry. The community has lost a dedicated Zaakir and will be remembered for a long time to come. He was a unique Muslim figure inside and outside his house’’, Mr.Twaha Ddungu, chairman of the Uganda Muslim Community in Coventry, remarked in one of his conversations with Abbey Semuwemba

‘Dr.Asadu,Dr.Luwaga and Dr.Jingo Ahmed used to run a clinic near Mbogo Mosque in Kawempe together before he left for UK. Whenever Dr.Jingo visited UK from USA, he spent some nights at Asad’s house as they had been friends for a long time’, said Saadi Buwembo from London.

A lot of Muslims expressed interest in joining the UMBS forum after Semuwemba’s speech. Some of them handed in their email addresses before he left Coventry on Sunday night.

‘’ The greatest wealth in being a member of UMBS is the chance to know fellow Muslims wherever you are and sharing ideas that will develop you as a person and the community’’, Semuwemba stressed.

Asadu has left a wife and four kids- the two eldest (boy and girl) are at university. Asad was born in Uganda and moved to UK around 1990, where he became a respected member of the Uganda community and a successful medical doctor.

According to a family source that prefers to remain anonymous at this point, Asad’s family in Uganda have allowed him to be buried in the UK.

Inna Lillahi Wa Inna Illaihi Raajiun. May Allah SWT Grant him Jannatul Firdaus and Give Sabr to the Family of brother Asadu.

BRITISH FUNERAL PROCEDURES - WONDERS WILL NEVER CEASE!

Posted here on 11/3/2014.

 

This article came from Uganda Muslim Brothers And Sisters  mailgroup.

 

BRITISH  FUNERAL  PROCEDURES

 

Brothers and sisters, Asalaam Alaikum.

 

Many friends have asked why it is taking so long for the late Dr. Asadu, a British Citizen of Ugandan descent; who passed away on Saturday 1 March, 2014, to be buried, even though it may no longer involve transporting the body abroad. Well, I was asking myself the same question until I ventured to find out. Indeed, the death of Dr. Asadu has provided me with a great learning experience into the way the system operates.

 

 There is a long activity of reporting the death to several agencies and getting clearances and confirmations of death. There are files to be closed and opened, sometimes requiring the hiring a lawyer to avoid going overboard with the process. But even when you hire a lawyer, there are certain things which have to be attended to by the family and friends, and especially the spouse or children.

 

First, the death has to be reported to the local authorities. You have to work with the family doctor or with the doctor who was in charge of the deceased up to the time of his/her death. The doctor will give you a medical certificate showing the cause of death.

 

After you have reported the death, you will be given a formal notice stating that they have signed the medical certificate and telling you how to get the death registered. Next, the state has to appoint a funeral director as in the case of Dr. Asadu who was British citizen, or you will have to hire one at your cost if you are a non-citizen.

 

Then you have to appoint a funeral director. If the person dies in hospital, as was the case with Dr. Asadu, the body will usually be kept in the hospital mortuary until the process has been completed and the funeral directors arrange for the body to be taken away.

 

You must register the death with the Registrar of Births, Marriages and Deaths for the district where the death occurred.

 

The registrar will need:

•  the medical certificate showing the cause of death, signed by a doctor

• the full name of the deceased person (and any other names he/she once had, such as a maiden name)

• the date and place of death

• the usual address of the deceased

• their date and place of birth

• their most recent occupation

• whether or not the deceased person was receiving a pension or other benefits

• the name, occupation and date of birth of their spouse

• the deceased person’s medical card or NHS (National Health Service) number

• the deceased person’s birth and marriage certificates.

 

The registrar will then give you:

• a certificate of registration of death

•a certificate for burial (known as the Green Form) which gives permission for the body to be buried.

• a death certificate, which you have to pay for.  

The death certificate will be needed for the will to be read, and any claims to be made for pensions, savings, dealings with banks and life insurance companies.

 

• If the deceased person left any money, property or other assets, these have to be evaluated to deduct the cost of the funeral (if necessary), as the funeral costs take precedence over any debts. Even banks may release money from the person’s account to pay funeral costs. Most funeral directors will ask for immediate payment.

 

Before you decide how or where a person will be buried, you must get answers to the following:

 

• The cost funeral director’s services

• The cost of burial materials such as coffin and cement where applicable

• The cost of transfer of the deceased person from the place of death

• The cost of care or the body before the funeral

• The cost of all the necessary arrangements and paperwork.

• Buying a new burial plot and burial fees

• Transport costs for the body (a body cannot be transported in ordinary vehicles).

 

You need to do the following:

 

•You need to notify tell the tax office of the death as soon as possible.

• The driver’s licence should be returned to the DVLA and the passport to the UK Passport Agency.

-You must also notify the following of the death:

- personal or occupational pension scheme providers

- insurance company

- bank and building society

- employer or trade union

- mortgage provider, housing association or council

housing office

- social services, or social work department in Scotland,

if the person was getting any community care services

or equipment

- utility companies such as gas and electricity suppliers

- The personal doctor (if he/she does know yet), dentist, optician and anyone else providing medical care.

• You should also register the name and address of the deceased person with the Bereavement Register. The Bereavement Register puts a stop to mail being sent to people who have died.

 

• You should report the death to the tax office so that the tax paid by the family can be reduced by 25%, and also to assess the deceased property to see whether the beneficiaries qualify to pay inheritance tax.

 

• It is indeed a detailed and sometimes complicated system. Even the citizens often find it tiring. And while all this is taking place, or at least most of it, the person cannot be buried. For the system, once someone has died, his burial cannot be treated as an emergency.

 

In addition to all the above, if the body is to be transported abroad, the additional costs are significant. The body itself costs about five times as much as a living person. In addition, the funeral directors accompany the body (up to Entebbe in our case) and hand it over to an ambulance. Even the airlines make special arrangements to properly package the body and to reserve a place where it can be transported as respectable cargo.

 

A few of the procedures are religion specific and may not apply to all, but nearly everything I have said above applies across the board.

 

I hope this throws some light on what may be taking place now.

Once again, I convey to all the Muslims of Uganda my condolences upon the loss of this very productive citizen and Muslim asset.

 

Abasi Kiyimba, PhD
Professor
Department of Literature
Makerere University &
Staff Senate Representative,
School of Languages, Literature and Communication

D N A - TANZANIA - ASILIMIA 40 YA WANAUME WANALEA WATOTO WASIO WAO

Imetundikwa hapa tarehe 11/3/2014.

TANZANIA -  ASILIMIA  40  YA WANAUME  WANALEA  WATOTO  WASIO   WAO 

Imetoka  STAR   TV,  MWANZA.

Asilimia 40 ya wanaume waliopima vinasaba ili kubaini uhusiano wa kibaiolojia na watoto wanaowalea, wamebainika kuwa watoto hao si wao licha ya kuzaliwa na wake zao au wapenzi wao.

Taarifa hiyo imetolewa na Ofisi ya Mkemia Mkuu wa Serikali kutokana na wanaume waliotaka kufahamu ukweli kuhusu watoto wao hadi Januari, 2014,  kwa mujibu wa Sheria ya Vinasaba vya Binadamu Namba 8 ya mwaka 2009.

Kwa mujibu wa Mkurugenzi wa Usimamizi na Udhibiti wa Kemikali za Viwandani na Majumbani, kutoka Ofisi ya Mkemia Mkuu wa Serikali, Sabanitho Mtega, bado kuna tatizo la wanaume wengi kubebeshwa mzigo wa kuwalea watoto ambao si halali yao, licha ya kuaminishwa na wenzao wao kuwa ni damu yao.

Mtega, ametoa taarifa hiyo kwenye mahojiano na waandishi wa habari jijini Mbeya wakati wa Warsha ya siku Moja [ Machi 6, 2014] ya kuwaelimisha Wateja wa huduma za Mkemia Mkuu wa Serikali, lakini pembezoni mwa warsha hiyo, wanaume wanaona ni bora kulea mtoto bila ya kupima DNA kwani hatua hiyo ni hatari kwa uimara wa ndoa zao.

Hata hivyo, Mkuu wa Upelelezi wa Makosa ya Jinai mkoani Mbeya, Kamishna Msaidizi wa Polisi, Robert Mayala, amesema vipimo hivyo vimesaidia kutatua kesi nyingi za kubaini uhusiano baina ya baba na mtoto.

Warsha hiyo imewahusisha Waingizaji, Mawakala, Wasafirishaji, Wauzaji na Watumiaji wa kemikali na wadau wengine wa sekta hiyo wakiwemo TRA, Jeshi la Polisi, Madaktari na Waandishi wa Habari.

Source: Star TV

THE OLDEST UNIVERSITY IN THE WORLD IS IN FES, MOROCCO !!!

 Posted here today 11 March, 2014.

From:  http://www.yesiknowthat.com/university-al-karaouine/ 

University of Al-Karaouine – The Oldest  Muslim University in the World

Name: University of Al-Karaouine
Location: Fes, Morocco
Established in: 859 as a Mosque
Famous alumni:

• Ibn Khaldun (Historian, Economist and Sociologist)
• Leo Africanus (Author and Diplomat)
• Muhammad Allal al Fassi (Politician, Writer, Poet and Islamic Scholar)

While highly contested, the University of Al-Karaouine in Morocco is considered as the world’s first university and hence the oldest university.  The University is actually recognized by the Guinness Book of World Records as the oldest degree-granting university in the world.
It was originally founded as a mosque with an associated mosque school (madrasa) which has been referred to as a university. The credit of its foundation goes to a woman called Fatima al-Fihri, the daughter of a wealthy merchant named Mohammed Al-Fihri, who along with many of their community migrated from Kairouan (from where the name of the mosque has come) in Tunisia to Fes in Morocco in the early 9th century. Fatima al-Fihri together with her sibling inherited huge wealth from their father, and Fatima had vowed to utilize her inheritance on the construction and running of a mosque for her community. The dynasties that followed continued to expand the Al-Karaouine mosque until it became the largest in Africa.

Image credit: Flickr ZL-Photography

The mosque, in addition to a mere place for offering prayers, was developed into a place for religious and political deliberations and instructions.  Gradually, the education programme was extended to a broad range of subjects, particularly the natural sciences, some of which include rhetoric, grammar, logic, music, medicine, mathematics, chemistry, history, geography, astronomy, etc.  Al-Karaouine has been and continues to be one of the leading spiritual and educational centers of the Muslim world, was integrated into the state educational system in the year 1947 and acquired the status of a state university in the year 1963 by a royal decree, which brought it under the supervision of the ministry of education. With the introduction of various reforms such as modern curricula and textbooks, trained faculty, etc., Al-Karaouine was officially renamed “University of Al-Karaouine” in the year 1965.
While many hail the evolution of Al-Karaouine spread across a period of over 1000 years, there are other who dispute its institutional status particularly prior to World War-II, claiming that it started as a mosque school and its transformation into a full-fledged university took place only in the year 1963. UNESCO in contrast considers Al-Karaouine to have been a university since its founding.
Despite the debate, there is however no doubt that Al-Karaouine’s has produced numerous scholars and intellectuals who have strongly influenced the history of Muslim and Jewish worlds.

SMALL CHANGES FOR FASTER WEIGHT LOSS !!!!

 Posted on 11 March, 2014.

Small Changes for Faster Weight Loss

By The Editors of Prevention | Healthy Living – Fri, Mar 7, 2014 8:51 PM EST

Quadruple your weight loss by making one easy tweak to your routine per week
By Alyssa Shaffer, Prevention
If your goal is to lose weight and exercise more, forget the deprivation diet and marathon workouts. Research shows that taking baby steps--not giant leaps--is the best way to get lasting results.

A study published in the Annals of Behavioral Medicine found that participants who made one small, potentially permanent change in their food choices and/or physical activity each week (such as drinking one fewer can of soda or walking 5 more minutes each day) lost more than twice as much belly fat, 2½ more inches off their waistlines, and about 4 times more weight during a 4-month program, compared with those who followed traditional calorie-restriction and physical-activity guidelines.
"When you focus on just a couple of small changes at a time, you begin to ingrain some healthy habits that last for a lifetime, rather than trying an all-or-nothing approach that more often than not fails because it's too hard to follow," says Lesley Lutes, PhD, an assistant professor in the department of psychology at East Carolina University.
We've uncovered 15 simple steps (with proven results) to help you move more, eat less, and look and feel better than ever. Add just one or two a week to your regular routine and you can lose nearly 3 inches off your waistline and be about 10 pounds lighter in a few months. Even better: Once these healthy habits become second nature, they'll benefit you for a lifetime.

RELATED: 7 Weight Loss Mistakes Even Healthy Women Make
1. Pick up a pen
Mindlessly munching on a bag of chips could result in easily polishing off the whole thing; write down how much you've eaten and you're more likely to practice portion control. Keeping a food log helps control extra calories in two ways: the combination of plain old reality check (I just ate 30 minutes ago!) and awareness that what you're putting in your mouth will soon be recorded for posterity. In a recent study, people who kept a food journal lost twice as much weight as those who didn't. When they combined it with a moderate diet and exercise plan, they lost an average of 13 pounds in 6 months. Journaling also gives you insight on your eating habits, says Dr. Lutes. Do you skip meals? Eat the same during the week as on the weekend? Binge when you're feeling stressed? "Knowing your routine helps you figure out what changes are right for you," she adds.
2. Skip through commercials
Get moving during your favorite TV shows. Skip, dance, go up and down some stairs, run in place--anything that gets your heart rate up so you feel somewhat breathless, says Geralyn Coopersmith, senior national manager at Equinox Fitness. Do it for each 2-minute break (forget the TiVo) during a typical 2-hour TV night and you'll burn an extra 270 calories a day--which can translate to a 28-pound weight loss in a year.
3. Limit high-fat foods
Tag the high-fat/high-calorie foods that are typically your favorites (our top five: cookies, candy, ice cream, potato chips, and fries) and gradually downshift. "If you're eating six of these foods a week, try to go down to five," says Dr. Lutes. Each week, drop another until you're at no more than one or two; at the same time, add in a good-for-you choices like baby carrots, sautéed broccoli, oranges, and other fresh fruits and veggies.
TRY THESE: 17 Snacks That Boost Weight Loss
4. Sign up for e-newsletters
One study from Kaiser Permanente found that people who received weekly e-mails about diet and fitness for 16 weeks substantially increased their levels of physical activity and intake of healthy foods like fruits and vegetables while cutting back on trans and saturated fats. Sign up for Prevention's weekly weight loss newsletters like, "Exercise of the Week," "Eat Up, Slim Down," or "400 Calorie Fix."
5. Walk 5 minutes more
In Dr. Lutes's pilot study, increasing daily activity levels by just a few minutes at a time helped participants lose weight. Eventually, your goal should be to do at least 30 minutes of physical activity a day (burning off about 120 extra calories daily, or 12½ pounds a year), but it doesn't have to be all at once.

6. Add mini strength-training
Basic body-weight exercises like squats and push-ups are a simple way to build more metabolism-revving muscle in minutes, and research shows they're just as effective as hitting the gym. "Your muscles don't know the difference between working against your body's own resistance and on a fancy piece of equipment," says Wayne Westcott, PhD, fitness research director at Quincy College and Prevention advisor. "The one rule to follow is that each exercise should fatigue your muscles within 60 to 90 seconds."
Try this mini-workout: Do 10 reps each of knee push-ups, squats, crunches, lunges, and chair dips. Then gradually increase the number of reps it takes for your muscles to feel fully fatigued.

RELATED: 8 Effective Exercises You're Not Doing
7. Climb 3 extra flights
Have a choice between riding and climbing? Including 2 to 3 minutes of stair climbing per day--covering about three to five floors--can burn enough calories to eliminate the average American's annual weight gain of 1 to 2 pounds a year. It's also good for more than just your waistline: Men who climbed more than 70 flights of stairs a week had 18% lower mortality rates than those who climbed fewer than 20 flights a week, according to one Harvard study. Start with just a couple of flights a day; if you're already a dedicated climber, aim to add three more flights to your daily trek.
8. Take a pedometer with you
Just as you wouldn't leave home without your cell phone, make a pedometer a must-have accessory. Research shows pedometer users take nearly 2,500 more steps a day (over 1 mile, or about 100 calories) than nonusers. Over a year, that's enough to burn off about 10 pounds.
9. Brown-bag it more
You'll save thousands of calories (not to mention hundreds of dollars) over the course of a year. Consider this: A premade chicken Caesar wrap from a chain restaurant has 610 calories, more than 40% of which come from fat, as well as 1,440 mg of sodium (more than half the recommended daily amount). Make your own with presliced deli chicken breast on whole wheat bread with light mayo and romaine lettuce for about 230 calories. You'll cut almost 400 calories and about 520 mg of sodium, which leaves room for a side salad and could still add up to a 28-pound weight loss after a year. "When you make and eat your own food, you not only control the quality and portion sizes but also reduce the amount of sugar, salt, and fat that you're consuming, which can be significantly higher in restaurant fare," says Ashley Koff, RD, a Prevention advisor and nutrition consultant based in Los Angeles.
PLUS: The 25 Best Diet Tips of All Time
10. Obey the 1-mile rule
Americans use their cars for two-thirds of all trips that are less than 1 mile and 89% of all trips that are 1 to 2 miles, yet each additional hour you spend driving is associated with a 6% increase in obesity. Burn calories instead of gas by following this rule: If your errands are less than 1 mile away, vow to walk them at a brisk pace instead of driving. Or park where you can run several errands within a mile instead of moving your car each time. Walk every day and you'll be 13 to 17 pounds lighter next year.

11. Take 10 to eat a treat
Try this strategy to permanently reduce cravings: Portion out one serving of your favorite treat, taking a minute to smell it, look at it, and think about it. Take one small bite. Chew slowly, moving it around your mouth and focusing on the texture and taste, then swallow. Ask yourself whether you want another bite or if that satisfied you. If you still want more, repeat, this time chewing the food 20 times. Continue this eating exercise for as long as you want or until you finish the serving (it should take about 10 minutes).
"When you take the time to slow down and be more mindful of what something really tastes like, you'll feel more satisfied," says Dr. Lutes. "Many of our participants told us that after a while, they didn't enjoy the treat as much as they thought they would, or they were content after just a couple of bites and were better able to stop eating when they were satisfied."

RELATED: 100 Cleanest Packaged Food Awards
12. Eat fruit--don't drink 'em 
 (Way to Go!  Personally  I never make juice for any fruit!- Blog Owner)
Skip juice and eat the whole fruit, instead. You'll not only get more heart-healthy fiber in your diet (3.5 g for a small apple versus .5 g in a glass of juice), you'll also stay satisfied, longer. Research shows that fiber aside, liquid carbohydrates just aren't as filling as solids. "When you chew a food, you generate more saliva, which in turn carries a message to the brain that your gut needs to get ready for digestion," explains Koff. "Drinking doesn't require such digestion, so the body doesn't register that it's full as quickly." Plus there are the extra calories--48% more if you're drinking that juice rather than eating the whole apple. (Do that daily and you may gain up to 4 pounds by year's end.)

13. Get technical support
You know exercising with a friend makes you more accountable (nobody wants to leave a pal stranded on a street corner at 6 AM). But your workouts don't always have to be done face to face. One study found women who had some form of social support, either through in person counseling or an on-line chat group, lost more than 15 pounds over a 9-month period, dropping about 300 calories from their daily diet and walking about a mile more each day than from their starting point.
PLUS: 7 Healthy Lessons Of Fad Diets
14. Go old school with coffee
A regular cup with a dash of milk and even a little sugar has hundreds of fewer calories then the blended drinks, which are practically dessert in a cup. One recent study of about 3,000 purchases from 115 coffee shops in New York City found that servings of brewed coffee or tea averaged about 63 calories (including milk and sugar), while the fancier drinks averaged nearly four times more, with 239 calories. A daily habit can translate to an 18-pound gain over a year.
15. Sleep away weight gain
Make a point of turning in earlier and you'll see weight loss within a week. Research from the University of Pennsylvania found even just a few nights of sleep deprivation can lead to almost immediate weight gain. Scientists asked participants to sleep about 10 hours a night for two days, followed by five nights of sleep restriction and four nights of recovery. After the 11 days, the sleep-deprived group gained almost 3 pounds, compared with a well-rested control group.